Using the creative power of your mind is very helpful when communicating with a virtual lover. But try not to overshadow the real personality of your lady by the mental image of her.

Letter to Josephine from Napoleon Bonaparte, Paris 1795

“I wake filled with thoughts of you. Your portrait and the intoxicating evening we spent have left my senses in turmoil. Sweet, incomparable Josephine, what a strange effect you have on my heart! My soul aches with sorrow, and there can be no rest for you lover; but is there still more in store for me when, yielding to the profound feelings which overwhelm me, I draw from your lips, from your heart, a love which consumes me with fire?  Mio dolce amour, a thousand kisses; but give me none in return, for they set my blood on fire.”